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Is Everything Practice? with Shaun Tinney

Companion to the MaxLife episode with Shaun Tinney

Shaun Tinney's whole idea is that everything you do on repeat is practice, even the avoiding.

▶ Watch the full episode with Shaun Tinney for deeper context on how to approach these questions
01

The thing you already know

There's a quiet feeling that shows up when something's off, a little twist that says "this isn't working for me" before your head has words for it. Where has that feeling been showing up lately that you keep talking yourself out of?

02

What you swallow instead

When something stings, what do you do with it: shrug it off, rehearse the perfect comeback in your head, vent to everyone except the person who needs to hear it?

Shrug it offRehearse comebacksVent to other peopleGo quiet and busyTell myself it's no big dealWait too long, then explode
03

The price of staying quiet

Tinney says every time you swallow the true thing, a little anger and a little shame stack up inside. Add up what all that swallowing has actually cost you so far: your own peace, the respect you have for yourself, a relationship slowly going stale. Which one has it hit hardest?

04

Leave the tension out there

Your habit is to be the one who smooths it over so nobody's uncomfortable. What's one true sentence you could say and then just leave sitting there, so the other person has to do something with it instead of you?

When you ___, it made me feel ___, and what I'd like going forward is ___.
05

Say it to the right person

Getting started is the hardest part, like a rocket burning most of its fuel just to leave the ground. Who's the one person you'll actually say your true sentence to, and when this week will you be in front of them?

Notice this: the thing you've been quiet about, you already knew. You just hadn't said it out loud yet. Every time you say the true thing instead of swallowing it, you're practicing being someone who trusts themselves. So what's the smallest true thing you could say this week, and to whom?
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