How High Performers Can Reprogram Their Minds ft. Erik Solbakken

Companion to the MaxLife episode with Erik Solbakken

Erik Solbakken says most of how you react was installed in you long before you chose it, and the way out isn't a technique, it's seeing the pattern clearly.

▶ Watch the full episode with Erik Solbakken for deeper context on how to approach these questions

Your Automatic Reaction

Think of a small thing that set you off this week, way more than it deserved. What happened, and how big was your reaction compared to the actual event?

Where You Learned It

That reaction was practiced somewhere, probably long ago. When was the first time you remember feeling that exact way, and who was around?

Old Software, Today's Screen

The thing that set you off this week wasn't really the danger your body treated it as. What were you actually protecting in that moment?

My prideMy sense of controlBeing seen as enoughNot being leftBeing rightNot sure yet

Say It Out Loud

Can you finish this in plain words, the way you'd explain it to a kid, then read it back slowly and notice if it already feels a little less true?

When ___ happens, I automatically ___, because some part of me believes ___.

Catch It Live

Erik's point is you don't have to fight this pattern or build a plan to beat it. Next time it shows up, all you do is catch it as it happens and quietly name it to yourself. Write the exact words you'll say in your head the moment you spot it.

Notice this: you didn't have to force any of these answers to change, you just had to look at them honestly. That's the practice. The reactions that run you only run you while they're hidden. The ones you can name in plain words start to loosen the second you see them.

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