Selective Ambition, Build a Life by Values, Not Vanity with Charlotte Grimmel
Charlotte Grimmel of The Mind Friend calls it selective ambition: you don't really want the goal, you want the feeling under it, so you get to choose what's worth being ambitious about.
▶ Watch the full episode with Charlotte Grimmel for deeper context on how to approach these questionsThe Goal On Top
Write down the goal you've been chasing hardest lately. Now answer honestly: what feeling do you think you'll finally get the day you reach it?
Vanity Or Values
Grimmel splits ambition two ways. Vanity is what looks good to other people. Values are what you'd choose even if nobody ever saw it. Sort a few things you're chasing into the two columns, then circle the one value you'd keep no matter what. Which column is your week actually built around?
The Rule You Never Picked
What's an unwritten rule about success you've been living by, like 'I have to grind' or 'I'm only good if it's perfect,' that you never actually chose and just inherited? Where did it come from?
What People Say At The End
Grimmel's test: picture people talking about you at the very end of your life, after a life well lived. What do you most want them to say you were like, and is that what your week is actually built around?
Aim Your Ambition Here
A goal gets checked off and disappears. The value you named in prompt 02 you get to live today and never finish. What's one ordinary thing this week you'll do differently to live that value on purpose?