Start With This- Habits of High Performers with Gary Klaben's Grit Blueprint

Companion to the MaxLife episode with Gary Klaben

Gary Klaben, a West Point grad who's been hospitalized 51 times and still runs daily, says grit isn't about being tough enough to go it alone, it's about staying humble enough to let other people hold you up when you can't hold yourself.

▶ Watch the full episode with Gary Klaben for deeper context on how to approach these questions

The Thing You're Carrying Alone

Name one hard thing you've been quietly trying to push through by yourself, telling no one how heavy it actually is. What is it, and why have you kept it to yourself?

Why Asking Feels Worse

For a lot of high performers, asking for help feels worse than just suffering. What's the story you tell yourself about what it would mean if you admitted you needed someone?

If I asked for help, I'm afraid it would mean ___.

Who Would Hold You Up

Picture one person who would actually show up if you said 'I'm struggling, can you help.' Who is it, and what specifically could they do that you keep trying to do solo?

Humble, Not Small

Gary says humility makes you curious and fresh, like you don't already have it all figured out. It doesn't make you less-than. Rate yourself honestly on each of these right now, then write one sentence on the lowest score.

I admit when I don't know something1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

I ask questions instead of faking it1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

I take feedback without defending1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

I treat myself as the one with the most to learn1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

One Hand Out, One Hand Up

Name two things for this week: one specific person you'll ask for help, and one person who's struggling that you'll show up for. Who, and what will you say to each?

The story most of us were sold is that quitting is weakness and grinding alone is strength. Gary flips it: the people who make it through are the ones humble enough to be held up, and grateful enough to hold someone else up next time. So who do you need to let in, and who are you going to show up for?

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